let your freak flag fly! (sawyer wakes up full of awesomesauce)

Say that five times fast (let your freak flag fly)….yeah…I can hardly make it past the first time too!

I came across an awesome awesome post the other day entitled Waking Up Full of Awesome over at  Pigtail Pals whose mission is to redefine the way we think about girls. From their website :

Pigtail Pals is dedicated to changing the way we think about girls. Our blog educates parents on media literacy, marketing, sexualization, gender stereotypes, and body image.

The gist of the post is that somewhere along the way, many of us go from a place of loving ourselves – our body, our strength, our intelligence – to a more negative place which may include feelings of…I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, my belly is too big, no one likes me, I’m ugly, why am I not skinny like all the other girls, etc…and we no longer wake up each day feeling awesome and ready to take on the world. And over time it becomes more the norm than the habit…to wake up not feeling awesome.

I was one of those girls. I still kind of am if I don’t fight against it constantly. I try not to; I’ve come so far in my journey of accepting who I am including my pot belly but that doesn’t mean I don’t have days where I feel like I’m not enough…I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not skinny enough….I’m not enough, I’m not enough, I’M NOT ENOUGH!

But of course I am enough….we all are enough just as we are. Why do we think we’re not? What has happened to us along the way? Why dont many of us wake up feeling awesome about ourselves? And if we don’t feel awesome, what are we doing about it? Something? Anything?

Towards the end of the post, the author shares a photo of her daughter in all her awesome glory and wonders if there will come a day when her daughter doesn’t feel like she’s awesome and I couldn’t help but liken it to my own daughter (and some of the fears I have as a parent), Sawyer, who is 7 going on 30 (we told her she can’t move out of the house, date, or get married until she’s 40).

Sawyer is so full of awesomeness and she’s not afraid to show it….at all. I didn’t have to dig through photos long to find the ones below that are so quintessentially Sawyer. She loves to play “her” version of dress-up and it absolutely cracks us up. Who, but Sawyer, could put together these awesome combinations? Because they are awesomely unique as is Sawyer. And we want to encourage her to remain awesomely unique and true to herself.

But are we, her parents, enough? The rose-colored glasses side of me says absolutely but the more practical side of me says NO (for all the reasons mentioned in Pigtail Pals mission) which makes me really glad that others feel the same way and are trying to do something about it.

So thank you, Pigtail Pals. Thank you from Sawyer’s dad and I, from Sawyer’s 7-year old self, from Sawyer’s teenage self, and Sawyer’s adult self. You’re doing great work and I will help spread the word.

And may all of us wake up feeling awesome!

sawyer lets her freak flag fly!
sawyer lets her freak flag fly!

sawyer let's her freak flag fly!

19 Responses to let your freak flag fly! (sawyer wakes up full of awesomesauce)
  1. Mellissa
    September 9, 2011 | 1:55 PM

    Love love love this. I so want every little girl and boy to just be themselves.
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  2. Kristin
    September 9, 2011 | 1:56 PM

    Holy schnikes, I was actually thinking the same thing this morning. I am so proud that my girls still think they’re awesome – I wish I could capture some of that and store it up for bad days :*)
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  3. Rachel Collins
    September 9, 2011 | 2:02 PM

    Sooo cute! From the looks of it our daughters would get along :)
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  4. Lynne
    September 9, 2011 | 2:12 PM

    She *is* full of awesomesauce! LOVE the flippers!!
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  5. amanda kp
    September 9, 2011 | 3:06 PM

    Great post, we all need to love ourselves. Why was it so easy when we were young?? This post is a great reminder….And I think I might try to pull off the last pic of her with the boots for work next week :)
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  6. [...] Pals- a website devoted to changing the way we think about girls; check out my post on encouraging Sawyer to always be true to herself! Are you getting out there and living your life as wholeheartedly as possible?  If not – let [...]

  7. Kaliphornia
    September 9, 2011 | 11:40 PM

    I just read “waking up full of awesome” and both her daughter and YOUR daughter are TOTALLY full of awesome and may they never, EVER lose one drop of it!

  8. Melissa Wardy
    September 10, 2011 | 12:21 AM

    Hi -
    This is Melissa from Pigtail Pals and I just wanted to pop in to say thank you for sharing about my post and mission to Redefine Girly.

    And Sawyer has most definitely got the awesome. She and Amelia need a playdate!

    • Jen at The Wholehearted Life
      September 10, 2011 | 6:55 AM

      Thanks for stopping by! Your post has the attention of so many folks…it’s a message that resonates with all of us. I personally haven’t been waking up feeling too awesome lately and I need to re-find my spark. It’s in there and not too far below the surface so I read your post at exactly the time I needed it most :).

      And your daughter is adorable in all her awesomeness!!!
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  9. [...] shoot a bow, play in the water, fish, and help his sister with a BB gun, a little girl full of awesomeness spends quiet time enjoying the outdoors with her family and barely makes it two minutes in the car [...]

  10. [...] I had very little time to actually live. I was always left wanting, wishing, never feeling I had or was enough…never [...]

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  12. [...] Sawyer is full of awesome (every child is) and she deserves to flourish. We have no doubt she’ll flourish in Waldorf as it closely resembles how she interacts and learns at home. [...]

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